DNA statistics- Paternal

DNA is not passed down exactly 50/50 from each grandparent pair. However, I still wanted to see just how much DNA I had identified using those parameters. I am not sure I got all the highest matches especially because I had to look at three different sites, but here goes my first try.

Note: I share 50 percent of my DNA with my parents and my daughter. On Gedmatch that number varies in cM from 3549 for Mom, 3552 for Dad and 3581 for my daughter using my 23andme test. Dad and mom are both on 23andme and my daughter is on Ancestry. For an average I am using 3560 cM as marker for 50%.  Differences are likely due to unreadable (no call) areas from the samples.

Based on the unrealistic 50 % DNA from each parent in each generation, this is what the contributed DNA “should” be for my parents, me and my daughter if every generation was inherited equally at 25 % for each grandparent’s DNA contribution.

Relationship to my Mom/Dad	Percentage	Dad/Mom’s estimated cM	My estimated cM	My daughters estimated cM
Grandparent	25 %	1780 cM	890 cM	445 cM
Great Grandparent	12.5%	890 cM	445 cM	222.5 cM
G.G. grandparent	6.25%	445 cM	222.5 cM	111.3 cM
G.G.G. grandparent	3.125%	222.5 cM	111.3 cM	55.6 cM
GGGG grandparent	1.563 %	111.3 cM	55.6 cM	27.81 cM
GGGGG grandparent	0.781 %	55.6 cM	27.81 cM	13.9 cM

My parents are only on 23andme and Gedmatch, where I am on Ancestry, 23andme and Gedmatch and my daughter is on Ancestry and Gedmatch only. (I am not using FTDNA or my heritage matches for this table.)  Since most “in common” identified matches will go back to a common ancestor pair (or double the DNA from the above table as “possible”) I wanted to look at the highest match to a known DNA pair for my parents, myself and my daughter. The results for my father’s side is below.

Surname of pair	Relationship to Dad	Dad cM estimated	Dad highest match	Me cM estimated	Me highest match	My daughter cM estimated	My daughter highest match
Barnes/Franklin	Grandparents	3560	370[i] 2C1R	1780	735 1C1R	890	486 1C2R
Hardy/Pyburn	Grandparents	3560	NA	1780	NA	890	NA
Barnes/Baker	G Grandparents	1780	266 2C	890	175 2c1R	445	109 3C1R
Franklin/Thomas	G grandparents	1780	69.5	890	173 2C1R	445	84.6
Hardy/Johnson	G grandparents	1780	146 2C1R	890	153 2C1R	445	NA
Pyburn/Mccurdy	G grandparents	1780	NA	890	NA	445	NA
Barnes/Owens	GG grandparents	890	34.6	445	69 4C	225.5	22.6
Franklin/Merrill	GG grandparents	890	NA	445	178[ii] 3C1R	225.5	NA
Baker/Vaughan	GG grandparents	890	NA	445	36 3c1r	225.5	NA
Thomas/ Brunson	GG grandparents	890	72.6	445	65 3C1R	225.5	20.9
Hardy/ Nelson	GG grandparents	890	106.8 2C1R	445	63.2 2C2R	225.5	55.5
Johnson/ Diamond?	GG Grandparents	890	NA	445	NA	225.5	NA
Pyburn/Chitty	GG Grandparent	890	64	445	55	225.5	22.3
McCurdy/Beck	GG grandparents	890	168.9[iii]	445	116	225.5	91.8
Barnes/Sanders	GGG grandparents	445	NA	225.5	66 3C1R	111.3	NA
Owens/Long	GGG grandparents	445	NA	225.5	NA	111.3	NA
Franklin/ Brunson	GGG grandparent	445	69	225.5	60.4	111.3	44
Brunson/Platt	GGG grandparents	445	80.5	225.5	64.8	111.3	44.5
Thomas/ unknown	GGG grandparents	445	NA	225.5	NA	111.3	NA
Merrill/Merrill	GGG grandparents	445	62	225.5	38	111.3	na
Baker/ Copeland	GGG grandparents	445	49.4	225.5	16	111.3	16
Vaughan/Jones	GGG grandparents	445	NA	225.5	NA	111.3	NA
Hardy/ King?	GGG grandparents	445	33.5	225.5	31 3C2R	111.3	NA
Nelson/Hudgens	GGG grandparents	445	NA	225.5	NA	111.3	NA
Johnson/ Parker	GGG grandparents	445	80.3	225.5	21	111.3	NA
Unknown	GGG grandparents	445	NA	225.5	NA	111.3	NA
Pyburn/ Stapleton	GGG grandparents	445	NA	225.5	NA	111.3	NA
Chitty/Brown?	GGG grandparents	445	45.8	225.5	39	111.3	31.6
McCurdy/ Sunday	GGG grandparents	445	33.9	225.5	27.2	111.3	26.2
Beck/ Woodcock?	GGG grandparent	445	81.9	225.5	11.4	111.3	NA

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[i] Double 2^nd cousin once removed. Dad’s first cousins aren’t on Gedmatch

[ii] He is related twice through Brunson/Platt and Merrill/Franklin (relationship closer)

[iii] Omitted the half cousins from William McCurdy and second wife in this line because they are double McCurdy’s it can alter percentages.

Family Secrets and Falsehoods

One of the challenges genealogist face is what do you do when your run across a family secret? Or a falsehood that was passed down? It is an issue we all must face at one time or another.

My grandfather has had some very interesting falsehoods as I have traced his documentation. I knew since I was around 7 he had a son by a previous marriage. But that is it. My mom swears she knows the name of her half brother, but I am not so sure she's right.

Over the years as more records have become available, I was able to find both of the marriages my grandfather had previous to my grandmother. Based on the data, I know that his first wife is the mother of his son. I also know from her records that by May 1945 she was "remarried" (questionable) and had no child with her, but this is the same time frame my grandfather's infant "son" should have been born.

His next marriage is in September of 1945. I then stumbled across a letter at Fold3 regarding a court martial for my grandfather for going AWOL for 6 weeks, which explains how he married someone in Alabama when he was stationed in Tampa. I know he got an honorable discharge, I have his discharge paperwork, but somehow between October 1945 and his discharge in 1946 his court martial decision got reversed.

Grandma said that she met Pop's son. The time frame for that is a little tricky. Was it in 1948 in California where they met and married, or was it in 1949 in Syracuse, New York. And the question of all questions is when did Pop kidnap his son. See Grandma said he got custody of him but gave his son back to the mom because she was married. But Grandma's sister said she saw a newspaper article about Pop kidnapping him. Was it in 1945 when he went AWOL? Or was it in 1949 when his ex wife was living in New York city and had another son?

This is important because I can't find his son. His ex wife remarried in 1951 and didn't have a son at that time who was 5 years old. Did he die? (I can't find his death in NY before 1950 or FL at all).Or was he adopted out, legally or illegally? I have looked for a newspaper article about it too. Nada, zilch. So the question is an open ended one for now.

Then there is my grandfather's marriage record to my grandmother. My grandfather had been using the last name of Mieirs since 1939, about the same time his mother had married a Fred Meier. On his marriage record, he lists his name as Mieirs (not Hager) and then he lists his father as Fred Meier, not his real father Claude Hager. His military records and earlier marriages were by his legal name

That would make sense except if you knew what he gave as the source of his name. Mieirs was supposed to come from where he worked, not from a stepfather!

His half brother has been another source of misinformation and falsehoods. My grandfather said his brother was named Eugene Melvin Tyler and he was born Nov 12, 1923. Now Pop never had dementia, and he wasn't wrong on details, all of his cousins said his name was Gene. In fact, Gene is the name written down for him by my Pop's Aunt.

Gene had bad health after childhood. He had a head injury and had seizures. My grandparents last saw Gene in the early 1950's. I have seen letters Pop wrote to the Red cross in the 1970's looking for his brother. He never found him. In the mid 1950's Pop had disowned his mother, and he never did look for her. Had he done so, he would have found his brother. Oddly enough, after 1965, even her own siblings didn't look for her. Her sister Rena had the address for her that was the same address she died at in 1983.

I did finally find Gene, but let me tell you, it has been no easy feat. First, years ago, I got the death certificate for Pop's mom. I called the funeral home for an obituary. They said there was none, but that a James Tyler and another man had given the information. James was not a relative according to the funeral home.

A few years, and data base availability later, I find James M. Tyler, born Nov 12, 1921 died two miles away from Pop's mom, in a nursing home. His social security death index said his social security number came from Oklahoma.

Another few years, and Cook county has death certificates for certain years online. James Tyler's is blank, no data. I have been looking for more information on James Tyler for at least 8 years. Nothing. I think this is Gene, but can't prove it. None of the cousins or their wives know anything. Last they recall they saw Gene not long before his Aunt Rena died.

Today I find this.

Same birthdate, lied about year. And oh yeah, Rena Day is Pop's Aunt.

So I am not sure how my grandfather thought his brother was named Eugene (Gene), or if Gene changed his name like his brother. But for 17 years, I have been looking for the wrong name. James M. Tyler who died in Chicago alone in 1989 is my grandfather's brother. I have ordered his Social security application just to be sure, though I think this proves it.

I am pretty sure he lied about his relationship to his mom to the funeral home. I am guessing he didn't want to, or couldn't, pay for her funeral. When I think that my great grandmother died when I was 15, and my great Uncle when I was 22, and all the years we could have known them, it makes me sad.

And the reason my Pop disowned his mom, it was over another lie. She told him his father died when he was 2. He died in prison when he was 8.

These aren't the kind of lies that tear apart families. They aren't secrets, not like the adopted son my Grandmother didn't talk about. Yet, I do think they illustrate that even when you think you know someone, there is always the possibility of things you never knew. I spent most of my time with my grandfather until he died when I was 30 years old. It wasn't like I wasn't close to him, and even though he didn't talk a lot about his past, I never would have dreamed of the things he kept hidden and lied about.

I Must Have a Genealogical Angel Part Two

Over the years I have spent countless hours helping others with their genealogy. I view it as my way of giving back. It's something that I am good at, and something I enjoy, and it seems the least I can do is help others.

In April I blogged about helping an adoptee (from my Hardy line) find her birth mother. About two weeks ago (July 18th)  I helped someone else. This adoptee contacted me about a high match to my father's sister. I looked at the matches in common and knew what family it came from but it was too vague. So I sent her a message back on Ancestry to email me a few screen shots of her highest matches.

I got the email, and I knew exactly which family she came from, and I was pretty sure which sibling of my great grandfather, but asked her to call. She gave me her information on what she knew and I asked her to share her results with me. She had said an agency had offered to help for a hefty sum, I asked her to give me a crack at it first.

When I looked at her matches, she had four second cousins, and several third cousins. Her highest second cousin matched at the level of a first cousin once removed or half first cousin. It had no tree, but I knew the last name because of the account manager. The second highest second cousin had a tree, with the B. family, that matched exactly to two or three other trees on the third cousin level.

As a side note, always check the match, several of hers had a drop down menu for the tree but it wasn't attached. Also, one had a private tree attached, but under the profile name they also had their tree so I was able to (the highest third cousin match) identify another surname A., who had married into the B.'s in the tree I had found under the second cousin.

In the third cousin level, I found another distinct family grouping, the N. family among four of her matches. The others either had no tree or were matches I already knew matched into the Barnes family. Her last two second cousin matches were from the Barnes family. The highest was a third cousin of mine, and the other was my father's first cousin. The next highest Barnes match was my Aunt, followed by several of my father's first cousins and a few second cousins and second cousins once removed.

From the information she told me, I pretty much knew, we were a paternal match. Because no one in our family was Catholic and from South Carolina (the only other non identifying information from the Catholic Charities was the ages and descriptions (height, hair color and eye color) of her parents.

So first I looked at my Barnes family. I was looking for a 29 year old great grandson of John Lunsford Barnes and Margaret Eleanor Baker. Because of the various great grandchildren who she matched at more distant level, I looked first at the closest sibling, the great grandfather of her highest second cousin match.

To be honest, I did look at all of the siblings, and only found 4 or 5 of the right age, but, I really really concentrated on James Marshall Lunsford Barnes (Lunnie), because his great grandson was her highest match. And the first night, I settled on one who I thought was the father, because he matched the description (from an arrest warrant website no less) and was the right age. But Lunnie had 19 grandchildren, so I wasn't positive. So I reached out to one of Dad's second cousins who is a friend on Facebook.

It took a few days for my cousin to get back to me, but I communicated with the adoptee via texts and emails and phone calls on my progress. And I worked on those trees, first the B. and then the N.. I wasn't really getting anywhere. I knew which of the B. couples were her great grandparents, but not which of the children was her grandparents. I actually discovered the N. part on day number 3.

I used Google and found an obituary that showed the R. H. was the first cousin of her birth mother, but again, I wasn't sure how. I knew from the genealogy I had built on the family that only four of the siblings were old enough to be her grandparent, and two of the obituaries I found appeared to rule out two of those four siblings, so I had two men left. One had died but I couldn't find an obituary.

I moved onto the N. tree and worked on all of the many siblings who could be her great grandparents. And there were a lot of them. I filled in the grandparent's generation. Nada. I couldn't find a single N. married to a B. And they lived in entirely different states. Newspapers for both areas didn't give me a single clue.

Day four I searched Facebook for members of the B. family, and I found a few. I messaged them, Tried to find phone numbers. and I didn't get very far. But day five, day five while looking through their friends I noticed something, a N. was on one of the profiles. Aha. I don't know why, but I searched ancestry for Norma N., and bingo, an obituary popped up that gave me a sister who was Mrs. XX B. Okay. So I had nailed it down.

In the meantime, I had talked to my cousin and the wife of the "grandfather" I felt was her grandfather. We had pretty much all decided she was the daughter of James Barnes who had died in 2015. I did the work and found his mother's name, (finally!) and worked on her tree. And then I looked at her fourth cousins. I found four trees with Purvis who went back to the same couple as James Barnes maternal grandmother's.

That pretty much sealed it for me. I called the adoptee and told her I had done it (in five days!). I knew who her maternal grandparents were, but not her mother's name, and I was pretty much positive her father was James Barnes who died in 2015. I also messaged a few other family members, including a sister of her birth mother.

I heard nothing back from the birth mother's family. And I thought, well, I just won't hear anything, but I did today. And today the adoptee got to talk to her Aunt.

Once again, I am so grateful that I was able to facilitate a reunion and assist an adoptee with finding her birth parents. The name the Aunt knew confirmed her father too. So there we have it. DNA solved another mystery, and I just helped with a bit of research. That and my genealogical Angels who always seem willing to give me a hand.